It’s More Compelling to Write About Failure Than Success

As long as there was something to learn from it

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Success is boring

The startup community in the city where I live, like many, likes to have successful entrepreneurs talk at panels and Ted-type talks about their road to success. The failure talks were much more interesting, though most success stories usually include a great deal of failure. It is the failure stories that make the success stories more interesting.

Mistakes are just as important as luck

Inevitably, when I look at the big mistakes I’ve made in my life, I see turning points, junctures where I had to reassess my decisions and choices. Each of these turning points led to improvement, eventually, though it was often difficult to see past them at the time.

The inability to learn from failure is a big problem

Most of us know a person or persons who seem to constantly make poor choices, repeating themselves and seemingly not learning from them. This is not a minor issue. In fact, it often comes from denial associated with past abuse. The person is stuck in a loop because they have limited their choices and keep repeating their destructive actions.

Writing about failure

I’m a believer in the notion that we must face fears directly and walk through them to our new self. This is where we learn growth and the fact that most fears are unfounded. Those are the stories I want to hear and write.

A failure story should be relatable

We relate more to the flaws and mistakes of others than to their successes. If they appear to have learned from them. A big If. If I tell you about a terrible decision I made and can’t tell what was good about it in hindsight, you’re probably not going to think much of me. And if you brag about your success without telling of the failures on the path to it, I’m not going to believe you.

Former software marketer. Former musician. Writer, nine non-fiction books, two novels, Buddhist, train lover. Amateur cook, lover of life most of the time!

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