How to Develop Relentless Curiosity

You’ll be a more interesting person and meet more interesting people



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There are two kinds of people in the world. I am not being simplistic. There are those who have reached a point in life where they don’t want to change and those who are relentlessly curious, who develop a wide range of interests and want to develop more.

It is likely that if you are reading this, you are in the latter group or may want to be. Curiosity is learned and developed and there are great benefits to expanding the range of things in life that interest you.

First, interesting people gravitate to other interesting people. If all you do is follow sports, binge watch, or otherwise waste your free time, you won’t have much to offer other people. You’re piggybacking your life on the accomplishments of others.

This is soul killing and I’ll tell you why.

Take being an athlete or creating those binge-worthy shows. These actions require a level of interest and skill that requires a major investment in yourself and the others on your team. A lifetime of applying yourself to a goal or goals.

When you tell yourself that you are not capable of performing at a higher level in something, you’ve essentially given up. A lot of us found ourselves becoming couch potatoes during lockdown, a unique situation. But those with curiosity saw it as an opportunity to experience something else, to develop new habits.

They were designing their next life.

Maybe you found yourself unexpectedly collecting unemployment or learning to deal with a different way of working and earning a living. There were two ways to think of this. You could hate it and desperately want to return to normal, or you could view it as an opportunity.

As I skim articles here over my daily coffee, I see an incredible amount of pent up desire to change lives. Endless stories of trying to get off the grid of our past and onto a new grid of our own making. But how do you do that?

You start by asking questions and shutting up

This was difficult during lockdown, but we are back out again, for better or worse, and people…




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